I was listening to a motivational speaker this morning, Mr. Eric Thomas, and something that he said really struck something within me. He said (in my own words) that there are two types of people in the world, the ones that say and think that they have to do something. Then there are the ones that think and say that they get to do something. Two small words that mean so much.
The have to crowd says I have to take Blake to soccer practice the get to crowd says I get to take Blake to soccer practice. Now just let that settle in for a moment. When we say that we have to do something for our family or our kids we turn it in to a chore or work. Just like a great mother and father would say I have to make sure that my kids are safe. I get that it is something that must be done. It takes on a serious heavy tone. Now on the other hand when we use the phrase for the everyday ins and outs of the family we tend to see it as a burden which can easily get us overwhelmed.
When we say that we get to do something, it is a privilege just like when we were younger some of the get to phrases we would say were. I get to have a sleep over, I get to have ice cream for dessert, I get to go to the mall. They were all things that we were excited to do. When we use the words I get to it brings about a feeling and mind set of gratitude. I get to cook dinner for my family today. How awesome is that. Some people may have lost their families so there is no one to cook for any more. Or others may not have enough food to cook for their families. But we get to cook for our family we get to provide them with nourishment, we get to see smiles on their faces because they are not going to bed hungry. These are just some of the things that we get to do. We will be grateful.
So let us change the words have to, to get to, and see how it will over flow into our children. They get to clean their rooms what a privilege. There are some children who do not have rooms or nice comfy beds to sleep on. They get to go to school. That is awesome, some children are not able to go to school because they go to work to help out the family.
Make a conscious effort to change the words that you are using. Let me know that positive effects that it has on you and your family. Try it out today and then go to facebook or twitter and share your family’s changes.
Social media is an awesome tool. I am on some type of social media for hours in a day. No I am not a slacker, it’s my job. Guess who else maybe on social media. Our children, yes, because my God-daughter is “grown” in age I give her a little space and we live in different cities now. So I am learning more about what she is doing through social media then our conversations. To me she is my sweet baby girl but on social media she can become someone totally different. Yes I am friends with a lot of my little people on facebook because it is easier to connect with them especially those that I have moved away from. I see a whole bunch of stuff and all of it is not positive or what I think they should be posting, liking, tweeting, and sharing. My timeline often becomes my prayer list.
Recently there has been some very dangerous “challenges” videos that has me very disturbed. They are popping up on my timeline because adults are blown away by the lack of common sense that our children are displaying. So with that said let us talk about solutions that could prevent these sorts of things from happening or getting out of control. I am going to put these questions out there and as parents let us answer them together.
What where your thoughts when you first saw the videos of the “fire and pass out challenge”?
Who did you place the blame on? The child, the parents, or social media?
What would you have done if your child had been actively participating in one of these challenges?
Have you talked to your child about these situations that are happening?
Have you let your child watch the videos and looked at their reactions?
If your child is too young to understand the challenges have you taken this awareness to talk about being a leader, peer pressure, and making their own decisions? (of course in a language they will understand) Or do you think this is not relevant to the younger ones (elementary down to four years old)
These are just a few questions that I was curious about when I gave thought to this awful situation that is taking over our social media youth. I really want to hear your thoughts and ideas. One thing this team can benefit from is the ideas and views of others. They are safe here, because after all we are imperfect parents. Comment below, tweet me, or let’s chat on facebook.