I was listening to a motivational speaker this morning, Mr. Eric Thomas, and something that he said really struck something within me. He said (in my own words) that there are two types of people in the world, the ones that say and think that they have to do something. Then there are the ones that think and say that they get to do something. Two small words that mean so much.
The have to crowd says I have to take Blake to soccer practice the get to crowd says I get to take Blake to soccer practice. Now just let that settle in for a moment. When we say that we have to do something for our family or our kids we turn it in to a chore or work. Just like a great mother and father would say I have to make sure that my kids are safe. I get that it is something that must be done. It takes on a serious heavy tone. Now on the other hand when we use the phrase for the everyday ins and outs of the family we tend to see it as a burden which can easily get us overwhelmed.
When we say that we get to do something, it is a privilege just like when we were younger some of the get to phrases we would say were. I get to have a sleep over, I get to have ice cream for dessert, I get to go to the mall. They were all things that we were excited to do. When we use the words I get to it brings about a feeling and mind set of gratitude. I get to cook dinner for my family today. How awesome is that. Some people may have lost their families so there is no one to cook for any more. Or others may not have enough food to cook for their families. But we get to cook for our family we get to provide them with nourishment, we get to see smiles on their faces because they are not going to bed hungry. These are just some of the things that we get to do. We will be grateful.
So let us change the words have to, to get to, and see how it will over flow into our children. They get to clean their rooms what a privilege. There are some children who do not have rooms or nice comfy beds to sleep on. They get to go to school. That is awesome, some children are not able to go to school because they go to work to help out the family.
Make a conscious effort to change the words that you are using. Let me know that positive effects that it has on you and your family. Try it out today and then go to facebook or twitter and share your family’s changes.